I was always told, when you look good, you feel good. I lived by this quote for a long time too. On days where I didn’t want to get out of bed, I’d use getting dressed or putting on some makeup or doing my hair as motivation. You know, because when you look good, you feel good, right?
I’d walk around, looking good on the outside, hearing all of these compliments, feeling the stares of admiration, while deep down inside, I couldn’t feel uglier. Yeah maybe the outer image distracted me from my true feelings for a bit, but once I got back home and the clothes and makeup came off, I became my miserable self again.
That saying just offers a temporary fix. The clothes, makeup and hair can’t change what you feel internally. That’s why I now prefer the saying, “feel good, look good”. This is permanent. When you become light on the inside, you can’t stop it from shining through, where everyone can see. Feeling good doesn’t require nice clothes or makeup, it requires something less tangible, like inner peace, personal growth, genuine happiness, etc.
As women/girls, beauty is often our #1 priority and I don’t blame us, I blame society. We’ve been brainwashed into thinking that females are just supposed to be pretty and poised, nothing more nothing less. But i’m here to tell you that it’s the 21st century. Women are to feel. We are to speak, to teach, to act and react, to learn, to live. We are not objects, we are human beings.
As we dismiss the societal ideas of beauty, we move into a more realistic meaning, which involves feeling good. Beauty starts with you. Not your face or your body, but who you really are, on the inside. What does she look like?